Why The Majority Of Us Don’t Escape An Average Life.
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This question isn’t a new one; for as long as people have lived on earth, it’s been around. Many great philosophers throughout history have spent time looking at what holds us back - at that part of our psyche that stops us from achieving a great life.
It’s a basic instinct that keeps us safe. Referred to as many things over the years - it’s what you and I know as fear. You’ve probably heard of the ‘fight or flight’ reaction, an essential tool for the early human race. At its simplest level, it’s what makes us jump when someone says BOO!
All of us recognise our comfort zone. When we take a step out of it, or a threat comes into it, we experience a physical reaction that enables us to either fight, or run away. We want to get back into our comfort zone as quickly as possible, so our natural default setting is to run. Our brain logs the experience as very uncomfortable, and we programme ourselves not to do it again.
Most fear is imaginary - we don’t really have to worry about being eaten by sabre tooth tigers in this day and age. F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real. We’re great at thinking about the worst that could happen, even though most of the time it never does. Conversely, we don’t spend enough time thinking about the best that could happen, yet evidence shows that those who do vividly imagine their success are much more likely to get it.
Fear has been used as a tool by ruling bodies for many years. Political leaders and even churches have used fear to control people over the ages - to keep society in order. It’s likely that even your mum had it in her bag of tricks when you were small! But actually we have a choice - we can feel the fear and do it anyway, or whimper back and stay average.
If you want to change some things in your life you have to change some things in your life - that might sound ridiculous, but in fact what it’s really saying is no problem can be solved with the same level of thinking that caused it. Any improvement you want to make will involve change.
People who remain average resist change because ‘it didn’t feel right’. People who improve their lives know they’ll feel uncomfortable but push through the feeling and do it anyway. Anything substantial enough to make a worthwhile difference will inevitably involve doing something that takes you out of your comfort zone, so it stands to reason you’ll feel uncomfortable about the action needed.
Start with small changes that are outside of your comfort zone. That zone gradually gets bigger as you start to build your confidence. List the positives and negatives of any action - objective analysis helps you to break down the fear.
Don’t let your fears and doubts deny you the good things in life. William Shakespeare said, “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.
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